We all know that staying positive through tough times can help us in the long run, but it’s often a lot easier said than done! When emotions are high, our mind can quickly go into ‘fight or flight mode, losing the ability to remain calm, take back control, and make decisions with a cool head. Also, emotions can be hard to understand – it’s not always about feeling “sad,” “angry,” or “stressed.” Sometimes all of our emotions get confused, leaving us confused and stuck in a rut.
“Negative” emotions are an integral part of life: without them, we would not be able to appreciate the positive aspects or feel balanced in our emotions. Taking care of your emotional well-being and staying positive isn’t about wholly eradicating confused emotions but instead acquiring the skills and resources necessary to deal with the ups and downs of life.
Here are some of Bach’s top tips to help you become self-aware and learn to focus on positivity when emotions run high.
The first step is to know exactly how you are feeling. Write down the following questions, as well as the first thing that comes to your mind in response:
– What am I feeling right now?
– What is bothering me right now?
– What is its importance?
– What would make me feel better right now?
Sometimes just seeing things unfold in front of our eyes can help us understand the situation better. Assessing the importance of things is also a great exercise to help us prioritize and deal with our emotions. We know how easy it is to get overwhelmed by the challenges in our life, and even though some things are important, sometimes we can find that we are clinging to something that is not that important.
To fix objectives
Setting goals is about starting small and finding things that are realistic and achievable. You want to see plans that will help you get things done without adding pressure – you want to work smarter, not harder. Write down your top three priorities and break them down into small, achievable things you can do every day to reach your goal. Next, write down three self-care activities. This could include practicing meditation, reading your book before bed, or keeping a journal. Each day, try to make sure that you are doing one of these self-care activities, along with your other chores. Over time, these activities will become habits,
Take a break
While having goals is essential, the best thing to do when you feel overwhelmed is taking a break and taking care of yourself. Burnout is never fun, and our bodies and minds can’t handle everything in the way of going out, so be sure to make time for yourself each day. Sleep in if you need to, let yourself be tempted by this piece of cake, let yourself go for a while to give yourself the best chance of success the next day.
Move your body
Regular exercise is good for you: it releases serotonin, known as the “happiness hormone.” However, getting active doesn’t mean you have to exercise six days a week on the treadmill. Varying your routine by trying activities like Pilates, yoga, HIIT, walking, stretching, and swimming can help keep activities exciting and fun. Listening to podcasts or self-help audiobooks while training is also a great way to be mentally and physically more positive. Over time, you may find that exercise is the perfect way to let go of your emotions and clear your head.
Feeling able to say no to certain things can have a significant impact on your emotional well-being. It’s so easy to spread out, to try to please others, or to prove to yourself that “we have this.” But learning to be resilient also means learning to say no. Learning to say no not only has a positive impact on your well-being, but it can also help you build fair and trusting relationships with others. If you ever feel doubtful or under pressure, go back to the list of goals you set for yourself – will that little extra help you achieve your goals? Is this a priority? If not, offer to wait another time or say no.
Talk to your friends.
Keeping in touch with trusted friends and family can help us get through tough times with a smile. Whether you need a shoulder to lean on or you can help support someone, the only way to know is to connect with people. No one’s life is perfect, and sharing our concerns with others and hearing theirs in return can remind us that we are not alone.